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Love Me Better
Slowly, I feel the cold inky fingers of darkness entwine. This struggle against submission’s soft caress has me flirting with a dangerous line. You left me here. With understanding I stay safely tucked in this place of discarded things surrounded by your forgotten dreams. Each ticking of the minute hand pulses shivers of fear. Waiting, I watch as shadows creep near. Slowly, I feel the cold inky fingers of darkness entwine. This struggle against submission’s soft caress has m
Stephanie Tobola
6 days ago2 min read


Reciprocation
The thing is, reciprocation is desired, but it is not required. A few weeks ago, my daughter was in the middle of math homework when she had a massive melt down. You know those meltdowns that start over something seemingly benign, like math homework, but by the end of the spiral you are in a puddle of tears because in your own head you can never do anything right, the whole world is against you, and nobody likes you. When she gets like this, I try to let her vent for a while
Stephanie Tobola
Nov 183 min read


Military Spouse
The truth is if it wasn't my husband serving it would be someone else's. My calendar has become a sort of security blanket for me. Each...
Stephanie Tobola
Sep 112 min read


Where The Story Began
When I started this journey into writing and sharing my story my hopes that my words could bring hope, healing, and awareness to others...
Stephanie Tobola
Sep 910 min read


Go. Fight. Win.
No matter what your day holds I hope you take these words with you. You got this! Go. Fight. Win. Somedays things seem bright and shiny....
Stephanie Tobola
Sep 42 min read


Undefined Guilt
I am filled with this murky grey undefined guilt. Forgiveness waring with my human inability to forget. Sticky memories pulling the past...
Stephanie Tobola
Sep 21 min read


What's Your Why?
. . . To use my gifts and passions to bring glory to God. Self-reflection is important and should be done often. In this fast-paced...
Stephanie Tobola
Aug 263 min read


The Love You Gave
Forever, I will be grateful for the love you were able give. I remember this one time. I can't quiet recall how old I was, but it was in...
Stephanie Tobola
Jul 162 min read


It’s Not About The Trash
But let’s be honest, our hurt and anger is never about the trash. Let me set the scene. It’s been a long week. You have been working,...
Stephanie Tobola
Jul 13 min read


Manage Expectations
Managing expectations is a process that requires constant effort and refining. My family and I have been very blessed to spend the last...
Stephanie Tobola
Jun 295 min read


Daddy’s Girl
That man will never know how much his obedience to the Holy Spirit impacted my heart. If you have read Ketchup Sandwiches you know that...
Stephanie Tobola
Jun 263 min read


The Best Laid Plans
If you want to make God laugh just tell him your plans. I am a planner. It’s how God made me. I like color coded order. Having a plan...
Stephanie Tobola
Jun 242 min read


Are You Entertained?
. . .a ring master spinning me around on center stage maintaining your control through your honey dipped whip of pain. As you watch me...
Stephanie Tobola
Jun 122 min read


Unashamed
I know who I am, and I am unashamed. Recently, I had an experience I had not had since high school. Those of you here who know me know...
Stephanie Tobola
May 207 min read


Wildflower
I didn't know how much I missed you until I watched you bloom vibrant and new. Dear Wildflower, I didn't know how much I missed you until...
Stephanie Tobola
May 11 min read


Center Stage
Knowing your worth empowers you to keep pushing because your life has a greater meaning. Own it and pull yourself to center stage. Why...
Stephanie Tobola
Apr 293 min read


Cheap Seats
I once read a quote by Andre Gide that said, "everything has been said before, but since nobody listens, we have to keep going back and...
Stephanie Tobola
Mar 203 min read


Changing
Things unspoken will forever remain broken Silence my revelation because you are grasping at self-preservation Memories long ago painted...
Stephanie Tobola
Mar 131 min read


"The List", Explained
I encourage you to ask yourself, is my momentary discomfort of reporting my suspicions worth potentially saving a life? "The thought...
Stephanie Tobola
Mar 113 min read


The List
As the darkness consumes your silence remains Don't you see me? Sitting third row from the front A terrifying night has me drifting in...
Stephanie Tobola
Mar 61 min read
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